Do you want to get married somewhere out of town? Run away with your closest family and friends, and turn your Big Day into the vacation of a lifetime? If you have already started into the process, you might be figuring out that planning a destination wedding (like here in the Riviera Maya!) is not all roses and sunshine! If you haven’t reached that realization yet, there are a few hiccups you might want to prepare yourself for—
Newsflash! Not everybody will be thrilled you are having a destination wedding!
Fact: YOUR excitement about spending a week in a tropical climate celebrating YOUR wedding will not be shared by everybody. Nothing can dull a bride-to-be’s newly engaged glow more than coming to terms with this. For all of your guests a destination wedding equals time off work and a good hit to the bank account. Not everybody will be happy about this, so prepare yourself to meet with resistance, and strong opinions from those who love you, but would rather see you get married closer to home. This can be especially difficult if those who are paying for your wedding do not support your decision.
How To Cope: I promise you that every Bride and Groom, no matter where they are planning their wedding, will learn that when it comes to YOUR wedding, everybody has an opinion! If you are a People Pleaser by nature, this will be especially hard. Keep in mind this is YOUR once-in-a-lifetime experience, so stay strong with your Groom about what the two of you want. BUT be kind! Keep a smile on your face, and hold your snarky remarks for when the two of you are alone. If you have Nay-Sayers who are contributing to the wedding budget, then work tactfully at explaining why a destination wedding is so important to you, breaking down the wall of resistance slowly and methodically.
Many people won’t agree with your choice of destination!
You may see this in many forms. For example, maybe you are getting married in the Riviera Maya in the summertime, but your best friends would rather spend their vacation enjoying the fabulous camping weather at home. Or perhaps you have chosen an all inclusive resort that is too expensive for some people to afford, or others aren’t happy that it is adults-only. Many problems can arise when settling on a destination wedding venue, and wedding date.
How To Cope: Rest assured that you will not be able to make everybody happy and so you might find yourself upsetting some of your favorite people. The best you can do is do your best at considering WHO you MUST have on your guest list. Is there a time of year when most people can take a vacation, or when the cost of travel is less expensive? Is there a wedding venue which could satisfy the guests who want a child-free holiday, and others who prefer to treat this as a family vacation? Do your research, and let your guests know that you are considering their feelings. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness, and may even hate you a little less.
Close family & friends will not attend!
Sad but true. Not everybody you consider closest to you is going to come to your destination wedding. On the day that you say your ‘I Do’s’ at your wedding ceremony, you might be surprised to see who is and isn’t there to celebrate with you. For many reasons (chief among them the two mentioned above) not everybody you love and care about will RSVP ‘Yes’ to your wedding. Unfortunately, there are often important people who want to be there, but can’t. This can be a seriously hard pill for some couples to swallow, and can create a lot of drama in your closest relationships.
How To Cope: There are a few things you can do to appease the disappointed, the angry, or the haters who cannot be there to see you tie the knot.
1. Let’s say that an elderly grandparent can’t make the journey. Show them the love by reserving a seat at your reception with their name on it, or incorporate them into your ceremony with a sign.
2. Live stream your wedding ceremony so that friends and family at home can ‘Be There’ in real time.
3. My favorite: Have an at home reception! It’s like getting to have TWO weddings! Once you have returned home from a small, intimate destination wedding, throw yourselves a huge party and invite everybody to celebrate with you!
People are people and that can make planning a destination wedding stressful at times! Keep your eye on the prize (getting married the way YOU want) and remember that being a considerate Bride and Groom will take you a long way towards dispelling any negative feelings about your decision.
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