How To Cope If People Kinda Hate You For Having A Destination Wedding

Do you picture yourself getting married at a destination wedding rather than a traditional at-home wedding?

Do you want to run away with your closest family and friends, and turn your Big Day into the vacation of a lifetime?

One of the biggest reasons you should have a destination wedding, according to The Knot, is the opportunity to relax and spend quality time with loved ones…

But! If you have already started to plan a destination wedding, you might be figuring out that dealing with these loved ones is not all roses and sunshine!

Newsflash! Even a destination wedding is stressful if you are not prepared for potential hiccups.

Here, we want to help you with what can be the most upsetting hiccup of all: your loved ones kinda hating you for having a destination wedding!

It can be devastating to fight with the people you love and unfortunately, weddings have a way of bringing out the worst in some people.

Here is how to cope…

Michelle & Brandon’s Cancun wedding

Not everybody will be thrilled you are having a destination wedding!

Fact: Your excitement about getting away from it all, to combine a vacation with your wedding celebration will not be shared by everybody. Nothing can dull a bride-to-be’s newly engaged glow more than coming to terms with this.

For your wedding guests, your destination wedding equals time off work and a big financial investment. Not everybody will be happy about this, so prepare yourself to meet resistance, and strong opinions from those who love you, but would rather the convenience of seeing you get married closer to home. This can be especially difficult if those who are paying for your wedding do not support your decision.

How To Cope: I promise you that every Bride and Groom, no matter where they are planning their wedding, will learn that when it comes to a wedding, everybody has an opinion! If you are a People Pleaser by nature, this will be especially hard. Keep in mind this is YOUR once-in-a-lifetime experience, so stay strong about what the two of you want. BUT also remember to be kind! Keep a smile on your face, and hold your snarky remarks for when the two of you are alone. If you have Nay-Sayers who are contributing to the wedding budget, then work tactfully at explaining why a destination wedding is so important to you, breaking down the wall of resistance slowly and methodically.

Lindsay & Rob’s Playa del Carmen wedding

Many people won’t agree with your choice of wedding destination!

Fact: We do not all share the same idea of fun. For example, maybe you are getting married in the Riviera Maya of Mexico in the summertime, but your best friends would rather spend their summer vacation enjoying the fabulous camping weather at home. Or perhaps you have chosen to get married at an all-inclusive resort that is too expensive for some people to afford, or others aren’t happy that it is adults-only. Loads of problems can pop up when settling on when and where to get married.

How To Cope: Just accept that you will not be able to make everybody happy and so you might find yourself upsetting some of your favorite people. Do your best to consider WHO you MUST have on your guest list.

• Is there a time of year when most people can take a vacation, or when the cost of travel is less expensive?
• Is there a fantastic wedding resort which could satisfy the guests who want a child-free holiday, and others who prefer to treat this as a family vacation?

Do your research, and let your guests know that you are considering their feelings. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness, and may even hate you a little less.

Melissa & Brian’s Playa del Carmen wedding

Some close family and friends will not attend!

Fact: It’s sad but true. Not everybody you consider closest to you is going to come to your destination wedding. On the day that you say your ‘I Do’s’ and get married on the beach, you might be surprised to see who is and isn’t there to celebrate with you.

The Knot puts destination wedding attendance at 50% of those you invite. Not everybody you love and care about will RSVP ‘Yes’ to your wedding. Unfortunately, there are often important people who want to be there, but just cannot. This can be a seriously hard pill for some couples to swallow and can create a lot of drama in your closest relationships.

How To Cope: There are a few things you can do to appease the disappointed, the angry, or the haters who cannot be there to see you tie the knot.

1. Let’s say that an elderly grandparent can’t make the journey. Show them the love by reserving a seat at your reception with their name on it, or incorporate them into your ceremony with a sign.

2. Live stream your wedding ceremony so that friends and family at home can ‘Be There’ in real time.

3. My favorite: Have an at home reception! It’s like getting to have TWO weddings! Once you have returned home from a small, intimate destination wedding, throw yourselves a huge party and invite everybody to celebrate with you!

Safaa & Al’s Playa del Carmen wedding

People are people and that can make planning a destination wedding stressful at times! The best way to cope is to keep your eye on the prize (getting married the way YOU want) and remember that being a considerate Bride and Groom will take you a long way towards dispelling any negative feelings about your decision.

Good luck, and enjoy your wedding planning adventure!

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What kind of wedding guest drama are you facing? Share it with us in the comments below!